How to Manage Frustration in Modern Life

We’ve all experienced the disappointment of wanting something and not getting it, especially as children. Such moments often led to crying, which our parents might have labeled as a whim. However, frustration is a common emotion that persists throughout life, and our ability to manage it plays a crucial role in our overall success and happiness.

A Zen master encapsulates happiness in a simple formula: happiness is the reality we live minus what we want or hope to achieve. When our desires exceed what we have, we face the dilemma Carl Gustav Jung described: “Life not lived is a disease from which you can die.”

In today’s competitive society, where instant gratification is the norm, frustration is a frequent companion. Another arises as soon as one desire is fulfilled, perpetuating a cycle of longing and dissatisfaction.

Have recent changes in your life affected your sense of well-being? Reflect on the following symptoms to see if frustration has taken hold:

  • Frequent Melancholy: You often feel sad or downcast.
  • Increased Irritability: You find yourself more irritable, tense, and stressed. Things that used to be minor annoyances now trigger strong reactions.
  • Persistent Negative Thoughts: Negative thoughts frequently occupy your mind, draining your energy and sometimes affecting your sleep.
  • Higher Alcohol and Medication Use: You have increased your consumption of alcohol or medications, often without medical advice.
  • Desire to Escape: You feel an overwhelming urge to escape your current situation.

Recognizing these signs is the first step toward managing frustration. By understanding and addressing these emotions, you can work towards a more balanced and fulfilling life.

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Cultivating Wellness: the Synergy Between Good Habits and Your Best Self

In a fulfilling life, an intimate connection exists between good habits, a positive mood, and overall well-being. Here are nine transformative tips that promise to usher tranquility into your life, restore balance, and inch you closer to the personalized concept of happiness that resonates with you.

1. Keep Moving: Embrace the Power of Physical Activity – Embark on a journey towards vitality by incorporating physical activity into your daily routine. Beyond the gym, consider simple changes like taking the stairs, walking to work, or cycling. Your body will be grateful, and the positive footprint you leave on the environment will echo in return.

2. Nourish Your Body: A Mindful Approach to Nutrition – Pay heed to your daily consumption habits. Allocate time for each meal, opt for balanced menus, and add fruits, vegetables, and legumes to your diet. Experiment with new recipes to tantalize your taste buds, steering clear of junk food and fatty meals that hinder metabolism and artery health.

3. Hydrate for Radiant Skin and Vitality – Plentiful water, tea, and juice consumption flush out free radicals, promoting radiant and healthy skin. Embrace hydration as a simple yet powerful tool to invigorate your body.

4. Pursue Passion: Dedicate Time to Enjoyable Activities – Allocate moments in your day for activities that bring joy and relaxation. Whether indulging in manual work, cooking, reading, or learning a musical instrument, these pursuits contribute to your well-being.

5. Digital Detox: Unplug for a Day of Self-Reflection – Challenge yourself to a day free from the shackles of social media and your smartphone. Redirect your focus inward, fostering a deeper connection with yourself. Embrace JOMO (Joy of Missing Out) and shut out digital devices.

6. Embrace Nature: Rejuvenate with Outdoor Activities – Immerse yourself in the soothing embrace of nature through activities like forest walks, picnics, and outdoor escapades. Breathe in the fresh air and reconnect with the world around you.

7. Volunteer: Spread Positivity Through Solidarity – Engage in acts of kindness through volunteering, a pathway often trodden by those seeking tranquility. The positive impact of your deeds will resonate in your life.

8. Radiate Positivity: Adopt an Optimistic Perspective – Approach life with pleasure, optimism, and positive energy. Fend off frustration, recognizing its potential to breed negativity.

9. Cherish Connections: Share Moments with Friends – Nurture your emotional well-being by spending quality time with friends. A simple coffee date or casual conversation can significantly uplift your spirits.

To conclude, the path to a more fulfilling life is paved with intentional choices. Will you adopt one of these habits and embark on a journey towards a healthier, happier you? The power is in your hands!

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Achievable Resolutions for the New Year

As the New Year dawns, resolutions become a familiar topic of conversation. While setting goals is common, the challenge lies in their realization. Often, we find ourselves succumbing to boredom, doubting our abilities, and overwhelmed by competing priorities. The question arises: why bother taking these resolutions seriously? However, the key is not to burden ourselves with unrealistic expectations. Instead, consider setting achievable resolutions that align with your genuine desires.

Here are some practical and realistic resolutions to kickstart your year:

  1. Cultivate Meaningful Connections: Dedicate more time to friends and loved ones, engaging in activities you genuinely enjoy. This is a powerful way to foster connection, even for introverts. Establishing a routine, such as joining a monthly club meeting every first Monday, can make this resolution more manageable.
  2. Express Gratitude Daily: Boost your happiness by expressing gratitude each day. Begin by acknowledging the abundance in your life—your home, your job, and even your gym. Gradually, extend your gratitude to smaller joys, appreciating a blooming flower, the morning sun, or a smiling baby. Over time, you’ll become adept at finding joy in the little things.
  3. Prioritize Sleep and Exercise: Improve your overall well-being by getting adequate sleep and incorporating regular exercise. If you currently sleep less than 7-8 hours per night, start by gradually increasing your sleep time. Add 10 minutes each night for a week, progressively reaching your optimal sleep duration. Additionally, kickstart your post-holiday fitness routine to shed those extra pounds and boost your mood with the release of endorphins—the hormones associated with pain inhibition and euphoria.

I wish you the best of luck on your journey to achieving your realistic resolutions.

May the coming year bring success and fulfillment to your goals!

Achieving Harmony: Nurturing Well-being in a Fast-Paced World

In today’s society, our well-being often takes a backseat to the demands of our professional lives. Striking a balance between work and personal needs is crucial for maintaining a high quality of life and safeguarding our physical, mental, and emotional health.

The international classification of diseases recognizes burnout as a work-related phenomenon, but its causes extend beyond the workplace. With the rising cost of living, a lot of people work tirelessly to make ends meet.

However, this relentless pursuit often results in neglecting essential aspects of life.

Whether working for a company or engaging in individual businesses, we dedicate countless hours to our professional lives, leaving little time for nourishing meals, adequate rest, and quality time with loved ones. The consequences of this imbalance are often underestimated.

Even for those facing the responsibility of providing for their families, it’s essential to find a work-life equilibrium. Life encompasses more than work, and neglecting personal well-being can have long-term repercussions on health.

The excessive focus on work, coupled with insufficient time for activities like sports, walks in nature, or simply relaxation, can contribute to issues such as post-traumatic stress, fatigue, nutritional imbalances, and strained relationships. It’s crucial to recognize the signs and prioritize self-care.

If you feel trapped in a cycle of stress and exhaustion, it’s important to realize that no salary is worth compromising your health. While changing your current situation might not be immediately feasible, incorporating daily activities promoting well-being is crucial to achieving a healthier work-life balance.

Remember, life extends beyond the confines of the workplace. Family, friends, and health are integral parts of a fulfilling life. Work may be important, but it shouldn’t consume your entire existence. Strive for a harmonious balance, as your relationships and health are irreplaceable.

In the grand scheme of things, your job may be replaceable, but your family, friends, and well-being are not. Prioritize self-care to lead a happier, healthier life. After all, nothing is worth sacrificing your happiness for. Your work will go on, but your relationships and health require your mindful attention. Take the necessary steps to care for yourself and embrace a life that goes beyond the confines of the workplace.

Do you think you care enough for your well-being?

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Why Mango is Known as the Fruit of Wisdom. A Story.

The mango is known as the symbol of wisdom. A Vedic story tells us why mango became the fruit of wisdom.  

Here’s the story.

The protagonist is Ganesha, typically depicted with an elephant’s head with a single tusk, pronounced belly and four arms. In this case Ganesha is in his guise as a child (Bala Ganapathi)  and in his four hands he holds: a sugar cane, a sweet, a branch and a mango, that is at the center of the story.

That day little Ganesha was at home with his brother Kartikeya, a handsome young man who rides a wonderful Indian peacock, and his parents, his father Shiva and mother Parvati, when the traveler Narada came to visit the family.

Narada was a wise traveler, often being a bit meddlesome and sometimes provoking conflicts between the gods just to have fun. Seeing him coming, Shiva and Parvati immediately felt the air of trouble, but the duty of welcome required them to open their home.

“Thank you for welcoming me! In return I will offer you this beautiful fruit,” said Narada, pulling a wonderful mango out of his pocket  and offering it to Shiva. “Thank you wise Narada,” replied Shiva, “but let me give it to the woman I love, Parvati.” Shiva thus handed the fruit to his wife, who, however, seeing that her two sons seemed very intrigued by that beautiful fruit, said, “Thank you, but this gift would make me much happier if my children receive it.”

She then took the fruit and was about to cut it into equal parts, when Narada stopped her. “This fruit cannot be divided! It must be eaten by one person only.” Shiva and Parvati understood Narada’s trick, but both their sons wanted the fruit at that point.

“Why don’t we make a race,” Narada suggested, “and the winner will get the fruit.” Shiva and Parvati, sighing, accepted the proposal.

The race

“The race will be like that. The first of the two children who will run 3 times around the whole world, will win the precious mango”. Upon hearing these words of Narada, little Ganesha saw himself doomed. How could he, with his small legs, compete with his brother Kartikeya, so agile, slender and able to ride that very fast peacock? 

But it was decided so, and Narada gave the go-ahead. Kartikeya set off as fast as the wind to quickly make 3 rounds around the world and went back home. 

But once there, he found his brother Ganesha holding the mango. Astonished, he exclaimed “How could Ganesha win the fruit?” You see Kartikeya,” his mother Parvati replied, “while you were running fast around the world, Ganesha made three little turns around me and your father Shiva, because we are his whole world.”

It is from this wise victory of Ganesha that the mango became known as the Fruit of Wisdom.

What do you think of this story?

Seven Simple Rules to Follow

We are approaching the end of summer. For those who have already returned from vacation it may be difficult to go back to everyday life, to start over with the usual routine.

So, I would like to share with you seven simple rules to follow for a quiet and less stressful life:

1. Make peace with your past so that it won’t disturb your future.

2. What other people think of you is none of your business.

3. The only person responsible for your happiness is you.

4. Don’t compare yourself to others, you may get hurt.

5. Time heals almost everything. Give yourself more time.

6. Stop thinking so much. Accept not to know all the answers.

7. Smile. You cannot control all the problems in the world.

Would you consider following these simple rules? Do you have any other to add? Let me know!

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How to avoid arguments with your partner

How to avoid arguments with your partner? It may seem strange to you, but the way you argue with your partner says a lot about the relationship. Arguments demonstrate that you care about each other’s feelings!

Even if you complain, for example, that you are bored, or you are left alone too often, this is a sign that you would like to spend more time with your partner and share intense moments with him/her.

Here are 5 tips to avoid arguments with your partner.

1 – Do not say anything that you will immediately regret, be sure to stick to the topic discussed, and listen carefully to your partner. In the end you may be wrong and it would be wise to admit it.

2 – It is important to recognize when you and your partner can no longer have constructive discussions. If every time you have to debate a topic, you end up getting angry, it’s time to work on managing the conflict.

3 – You shall be ready to see the other person’s point of view, how they feel, what they expect from you and what they want to do to regain happiness.

4 – It is normal to be upset, however, screaming, having vulgar language, and anything else that could hurt your partner mentally or physically is going to have disastrous consequences. Try to remember why the discussion started, what the issue was, why it needed to be addressed, and do your best to see your partner’s point of view.

5 – Finally, keep your emotions under control. Remember that if your emotions take over it may be destructive. You should try to make a strong and reasonable case. If the topic of the dispute is particularly sensitive, it is even more important for you to control your emotions. The purpose of an argument is not to hurt each other, but rather to reconnect with each other in ways you didn’t do before.

Don’t hesitate to share these simple tips with people around you, you may save a couple in trouble!

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How to Make Others Happy

Making others happy is simpler than you might think. There is a scientific explanation behind the phrase “a smile is contagious”. Researchers at Harvard University have found that happiness is contagious: when a person is joyful, people around them are 25% more likely to be happy as well. Imagine what could happen if every person in the world would do one act of kindness a day to another person. The repercussions would be staggering. You would not need to do great things, as even small gestures may make others smile.
Try these ideas to see if you would bring more happiness around you.

How to Make Others Happy #1: Sharing Books

Two Australian friends wanted people to quit the habit of watching their phones on the public transport and replace them with a good book. That is why they launched @booksontherail. This initiative invites people to place a sticker on a book they liked and leave it somewhere for someone else to pick it up and read it. After reading it, the book could be left again somewhere for another person. Why not give it a try? Next time you finish a good book, instead of leaving it on a shelf to gather dust, leave it somewhere and invite with a post-it the person who finds it to read it, and continue the literary chain of happiness.  

In Brussels, there are small free “book shelves” on the streets where people can exchange books for free, of course. If you live in an apartment, why not set one up in the lobby of your building, or why not also at work?

How to Make Others Happy #2: Giving Compliments

“If you think something positive about someone, you should tell them,” says Steven Bartlett, who runs one of Europe’s biggest podcasts, Diary of a CEO.  “It’s the easiest way to add positive things to a world that needs it so much.”

How to Make Others Happy #3: Making a Cake

Why not bake a cake for your colleagues? Don’t wait for a reason, just make it to share a few moments away from your work and simply enjoy a piece of cake together.  In addition, sharing food has been shown to increase happiness.

How to make others happy #4: Sharing your Garden

Take a little branch of your favourite plant from your garden or balcony and give it to a friend to integrate a part of your world into their world. Every time they look at it, they will think of you and they will put a smile in their face.

How to Make Others Happy #5: Pay for a Coffee In Advance

A “caffè sospeso” is a “hanging coffee” in Italian. This term was created in the workers’ bars of Naples more than 100 years ago. Some people will pay for two coffees while having only one so that people in need could enjoy the second one for free. When you order a coffee next time, ask the waiter if you can buy one for someone else as well. Some bars have regular visits from homeless people to whom they can offer your coffee.

How to Make Others Happy #6: Opening Doors

By “opening doors” I don’t mean metaphorical doors, I really mean opening a door for someone else who is behind you. “Something as simple as keeping a door open for someone else coming in can really lift both spirits,” says psychologist Jess Baker. “It only takes a few seconds, but it’s a moment of connection that shows that you’ve seen the other person, that you’ve taken them into account, and that you’re doing something to make their day more pleasant.”

What would you do to make others happy?

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Sleeping Well Is One of The Secrets for Your Well-being

Sleeping well is one of the secrets for your well-being that has been confirmed by science several times.
Find out what a good night’s sleep can bring in terms of well-being.

In the past people would go to bed at sunset and get up at sunrise. Our ancestors had no alarm clocks, they did not have neither a schedule to stick to, nor morning meetings to participate in. Their sleep rhythm was simply based on the natural day/night cycle, basically on the light.

Maintaining a healthy and regular sleep pattern is one of the (many) challenges of modern life. With our busy schedules, long working hours and smartphones always on, it may happen that we don’t get enough sleep.

Yet even though we all have a schedule to stick to, cutting back on your sleep hours is never a good idea. Sleep really has fabulous benefits, and getting enough sleep is vitally important for your overall health and well-being. Sleeping well doesn’t just serve to look good: it keeps you healthy.

Discover six benefits of sleep for your happiness and health.

1. Sleep makes you look good

Sleep is perhaps the closest thing to a fountain of youth. During deep sleep, the brain secretes a growth hormone responsible for cell renewal and repair of damaged tissue. This growth hormone is only released at night and can work miracles for your skin. The skin cells themselves go into repair mode when you sleep. Their metabolism accelerates and they regenerate faster than at any other time of the day.

In addition to these freshly renewed and healthy cells, sleep also has the effect of increasing blood flow to your skin, which is why your cheeks are warm and pink when you sleep. Lack of sleep can make the skin dull or chalky.

Thanks to a good night’s sleep you will look naturally throughout the following day.

2. Sleep strengthens the immune system

Researchers are only confirming what your mom has always told you: when you’re sick, the best thing to do is stay in bed and sleep as much as possible. Sleep helps fight the flu and other similar conditions, because the body produces disease-fighting proteins called cytokines when you sleep. If you’re sick often, maybe you’re not getting enough sleep. To strengthen your immune defences, try going to bed earlier or napping during the day.

3. Sleep helps solve problems

When faced with a dilemma, a good night’s sleep can help make the right decision. Researchers have observed that sleep helps solve problems creatively, because it provides access to the mass of knowledge and memories stored in your brain. At rest, your brain looks for associations that are not obvious when you are awake. This makes it possible to imagine creative solutions to solve the most difficult problems using information you didn’t even know you had. 

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4. Sleep reduces stress

Sleep and stress are back-feeding. Stress can cause a lack of sleep and lack of sleep can generate stress. It’s a vicious circle that can be hard to get out of. But by managing your sleep well, you learn to fight stress too. Better quality sleep helps your body and mind recover, but you’ll also be less sensitive to stress if you’ve slept well. All challenges are easier to face after at least 6 hours of good sleep!

5. Sleep helps to lose weight

If you’re looking to get back on your ideal weight, a good nap can be as effective as a workout. A study published by the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition claims that people who sleep well burn more calories during the day than people who don’t get enough sleep. According to researchers at the University of Chicago, sleep promotes weight loss, and another study in the journal Obesity shows that tired people tend to consume more caloric foods.  

6. Sleep is good for your social relationships

Sleeping well is not only good for your physical and mental well-being, it is also a way to keep healthy relationships. Lack of sleep makes us more irritable, less patient, and with less energy to devote to others. It also impacts our capacity for empathy, and prevents us from being sensitive to the emotions of our loved ones. In short, we are much more pleasant for others when we are well rested. A nap may not solve all your relationship problems, but sometimes all that’s missing is a few hours of sleep.

What do you think about your sleeping pattern? Do you sleep longer enough to be healthy?

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The Black Dot

“Energy goes where your focus is” Tony Robbins

This is what the story of the black dot is about.

One day, a professor entered the classroom and asked the students to get ready for a surprise test.

They all waited anxiously at their desks for the exam to begin.

The professor handed out the exams with the text facing down, as usual. Once he handed them all out, he asked the students to turn over the papers.

To everyone’s surprise, there were no questions – just a black dot in the middle of the paper sheet.

The professor, seeing the expression on everyone’s faces, told them the following: “I want you to write about what you see there.”

The students, confused, got started on the inexplicable task.

When the given time was over, the professor took back all the papers, and started reading each one aloud, in front of all the students.

All of them, with no exception, defined the black dot, trying to explain why it was in the middle of the sheet.

After all had been read, and the classroom was silent, the professor started to explain: “I’m not going to give you a note on this, I just wanted to give you something to think about. No one wrote about the white part of the paper. Everyone focused on the black dot. The same happens in our lives.”

Life is like a piece of paper to write on, observe and enjoy, but we always focus on the dark spots.

Life is a gift, and we always have reasons to celebrate – nature renewing itself daily, friends around us, the job that provides us money to live, the love of our partner, our children, and much more.

The dark spots are very small when compared to everything we have in our lives, but they’re the ones that pollute our mind.

Take your eyes away from the black dots in your life. Enjoy each one of your blessings and each moment that life gives you. Be happy and just live!

Do you think you are living your life fully?

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