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4 Tips to Kick Off the Day with Balance and Joy

Any day is perfect to reassess how we approach our lives both personally and professionally. Instead of getting swept up in the noise, why not focus on creating a balanced, fulfilling lifestyle? To help you kick off your day, here are four essential tips that will not only enhance your productivity but also bring more joy and inner peace into your everyday routine.

1. Learn to Say No: Prioritize Yourself
One of the most valuable lessons you can learn is the power of saying no. It’s not just about declining a task; it’s about respecting your values and listening to your needs. When you manage your priorities—both at work and in your personal life—you become more productive and more available to others, and yet, you often find there’s little time left for what truly matters to you.

Start saying no to things that don’t align with your values or overload your schedule. By asserting yourself and guarding your time, you can create space for what genuinely enriches your life.

2. Have More Fun and Move More Often
A healthy lifestyle is more than just eating right—it’s also about staying active and limiting the time spent sitting. But exercise doesn’t have to be a chore! Why not combine the useful with the enjoyable? If you want to move more, consider taking a leisurely walk through a park or joining a dance class with friends.

The key is to find activities that not only keep you active but also make you smile. Fun physical activities nourish both the body and the soul, and they can be the perfect remedy for a sedentary lifestyle.

3. Smile More Often: Cultivate Positivity
Too often, we waste energy on anger, criticism, or stress. But did you know that for every minute spent being angry, it takes an hour to recover your energy? Make a conscious effort to cultivate happiness by shifting your perspective. Instead of focusing on the negative, try to embrace the good that life offers.

Here’s a fun exercise: each day, write down three positive things that happened to you or moments you appreciated. Place those notes in a jar, and whenever you feel down, pick one out and relive those pleasant memories. This simple habit can help you stay grounded in gratitude and foster a positive mindset.

4. Take Advantage of Silence: Disconnect and Recharge
In a world filled with constant noise and distractions, we rarely get the chance to experience silence. Yet silence is essential for our mental clarity and well-being. Try to disconnect from digital devices and enjoy moments of quiet. Whether it’s a peaceful walk in the woods, a short siesta during your workday, or a mindfulness session, these moments of stillness can recharge you more than you realize.

Create your own personal “digital detox” rituals to regularly escape the constant buzz of notifications and information. Silence is not just the absence of noise but it’s also an opportunity to reconnect with yourself.

Remember that it’s up to you to adopt a more balanced and joyful life. By learning to say no, having more fun, smiling more, and embracing silence, you can create a lifestyle that balances productivity with joy. Start small, but be consistent. These four tips can transform not just your day, but your entire life into one filled with happiness, balance, and well-being.

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Aristotle and the 11 Rules for Living Happily

It might seem strange to think that the wisdom of an ancient philosopher like Aristotle could still resonate in our fast-paced, digital age. However, Aristotle’s insights remain profoundly relevant, offering a blueprint for a fulfilling life even in the complexities of the modern world. If Aristotle spoke of 11 rules for living happily, it’s because he believed there is indeed a path to eudaimonia—a term that encapsulates the highest human good, often translated as “flourishing” or “happiness.”

At first glance, it may appear absurd that the thoughts of a man who lived centuries ago could reflect the reality of our rapidly evolving society. However, Aristotle understood the human condition in a way that transcends time. No matter how much trends, mindsets, or expectations change, the pursuit of happiness remains a central concern for humanity. According to Aristotle, there are 11 rules to achieve a happy life. If you follow them consistently, happiness will be yours—and not only that, you’ll also unlock the secret to living the best life possible.

What Is Eudaimonia?

How does one achieve a happy life? What exactly is eudaimonia? According to Aristotle, it’s the concept of a life well-lived, where happiness is not just a fleeting emotion but the result of continuous action directed toward a state of well-being and prosperity. This idea goes beyond physical well-being, encompassing what resides deep within our hearts, minds, and spirits.

In his “Nicomachean Ethics,” Aristotle often pondered the question, “What kind of person should I be?”—a far more profound inquiry than the more common, “What should I do to be happy?” A man of his wisdom could not be content with the average view of happiness. He recognized that true happiness involves focusing one’s resources and energy on self-improvement. This focus not only enriches the individual but also positively impacts the world around them, making life truly fulfilling.

Aristotle, who saw humans as inherently social creatures, dedicated to relationships and communities, faced personal adversity, including the loss of his great student Alexander the Great and subsequent political tensions. Despite these challenges, Aristotle considered himself happy because he adhered to these 11 rules.

Are Aristotle’s Rules for Happiness Effective?

The first question one should ask is whether they truly know what they want to be. In many cases, sadness stems from a lack of self-awareness, leading to an absence of goals and a deep sense of frustration. Human beings are meant to explore both the world and themselves. Without a clear path or understanding of who they might become, they cannot know what to do to achieve happiness.

Eudaimonia, the state of living well and thriving, is achieved through virtue. The person you aspire to be is a virtuous one. Virtues are character traits and tendencies that, when practiced consistently, become excellent habits. Virtuous individuals become role models for themselves and others, contributing to a better society. These virtues are the “golden mean,” golden rules that help one attain the ultimate goal.

There are 11 virtues, just like the 11 rules for eudaimonia.

  • The first is Courage—aware of dangers, one fights for their dreams.
  • Next is Temperance, which lies between excess and deficiency. For Aristotle, both the man who drinks too much (lacking temperance) and the one who never drinks at all (being overly temperate) are in the wrong. The key is finding the right balance.
  • Then there is Liberality—giving more than one has to others, particularly in doing good.
  • Magnificence is knowing you are great and striving for the best without showing off.
  • Magnanimity involves serving others with kindness without falling prey to pride.
  • Patience is about avoiding outbursts of anger—venting is fine, but in the face of adversity, remaining calm and serene helps one handle challenges better.
  • Truthfulness—honesty always pays off, even when it seems impossible and could cause trouble. The truth always finds its way back.
  • Wittiness and Friendliness go hand in hand, involving the art of social interaction with genuine humor without being vulgar or intrusive.
  • Shame is about understanding one’s limits—avoiding becoming either shameless or too timid to act.
  • Last, but certainly not least, there is Justice—the ideal that animates everything, guiding one to act justly.

The key is to apply these rules according to the situation and your own moral compass. In doing so, you can aspire to be the person you want to be—virtuous and happy within the society you live in.

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Why Walking Meditation Helps Regenerate the Brain

Walking meditation is an act of personal liberation because it offers you the simple pleasure of freeing yourself from daily obligations. You can see the benefits already after the first week you started to walk, and it is becoming a habit of your life. 

According to some research, people living in large cities, which usually are big urban areas highly polluted, suffer from extreme stress also because they tend to spend very little time in nature.

If you add to your routine walking meditation practice, you will get a really powerful anti-stress remedy. Practicing it brings enormous physical and psychological benefits. Ten minutes a day are enough, and you can practice walking meditation at any time of day.

A meditative walk in nature will allow you to free yourself from everyday stress.

Walking by itself is good for your health. It allows to reduction the risk of cardiovascular diseases and back pain, for example. Why not combine this practice with meditation?

Here are 6 tips on how to do it.
  1. Keep your back straight.
  2. Synchronize the breath on your steps, by keeping a quiet walking pace.
  3. Become aware of your body. Focus on your feet, on your legs, on the movement, on the contact with the soil. Try to eliminate tensions and concentrate only on the steps.
  4. Focus on the feelings this practice gives you. Are they pleasant? Is your body relaxing? And your mind, is it calming down?
  5. Then move your attention to your emotions. What do you feel? Do not judge the emotions you feel, let them go, observe them as if they were in front of you.
  6. Finish your practice by standing, contemplating the feeling of fullness, and thanking your body and mind for the beautiful meditative walk.

Do not try to stop thinking, because thinking is the activity of the brain and it is impossible to stop! On the other hand, try to take advantage of the moment of relaxation you are experiencing, to become aware of your body and your emotions without this affecting your mood and without judging.

By regularly practicing the meditative walk, you will feel more and more balanced and at peace with yourself.

Here are some results:

1. When you walk, your brain stops worrying. Walking is an activity within everyone’s reach and allows you to receive an extra dose of oxygen and clean air from nature. This is when we begin to stimulate our frontal lobe, the one that is related to creativity and mood. If we add to this the natural release of endorphins, magic happens. The brain feels more euphoric and optimistic.

2. Thanks to a better mood, you will be more creative. When you are not under pressure, you drop negativism and the hormone cortisol produced by stress disappears. You will feel more relaxed, more enthusiastic, and more confident.

3. You are used to moving in small spaces. Your home, your work, public transport, supermarkets, and other places you regularly go, are limited spaces in which tensions may ignite. Therefore, just starting to meditate and walk in a natural, open space is a wonderful act of liberation and relaxation.

4. According to research, you must seek, above all, contact with nature. The idea is to fill your lungs with pure oxygen, and your eyes discover new horizons, and stimulating landscapes thanks to which the brain is enriched.

Be aware that walking is much more effective than a painkiller or any vitamin! And a meditative walk is an experience you cannot miss!

Would you give it a try?

Why I Think Happiness at Work is Overestimated

“The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, answered “Man! Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”

Why do I think that happiness at work is overestimated? My job is okay but am I really happy? I don’t think I would stop working in the sense that I would sit doing nothing, but I would no longer work for money. I would dedicate myself to one of my passions, for example writing. I would also volunteer, and go to Pilates more often.

I would more or less continue to live the life I am living now without doing the same job and without feeling obliged to earn enough to make my living. This is actually the core issue. In most of the cases we work to support ourselves and our families and not because we like it. So talking about happiness at work is overestimated, at least in some cases. Ask some underpaid workers who work on the assembly line if they are happy to go to work. Or to a teacher harassed by the students if their job motivates them. Or a nurse doing stressful night shifts, if they’d rather work during the day.

The concept of happiness at work seems to me a bit forced, yet a lot of people talk about it, without considering that a large number of employees do not like the work they do but have no other choice, especially in an economic downturn such as the current one (at least in Europe). It seems to me a bit like a race towards a goal that cannot be achieved.

Then let’s look at the increase of the cases of burn-out. In Europe, France holds the record with their 10% of active population suffering from burn-out. Is it better in other European countries? Actually, the key question to ask would be if there is a good balance between private life and working life. People are better where governments implement policies to balance work with life.

The problem of work is therefore the space it occupies in our lives, space and not time. Space means not only the time actually spent at the workplace, but also the time spent thinking about work, the famous work that you take home and that interferes with your private life.

What to do then to change this constant thought that we have towards work?

Have a look at the techniques I described in the following posts:

5 Tips to Start The Day Anxiety-Free

5 Reasons Why Hiking Is Good for the Body, Soul And Spirit

How to Relax in 10 Steps: Making Space Within You

Try also to be grateful for what you have without thinking that this means lack of ambition. It simply means to stop chasing a chimera and to seek your well-being in what you have. Well-being, not happiness, because well-being is a state that can become permanent, while happiness is a moment, or some moments, that may fade away soon.

Pursuing well-being means beginning a journey made of small steps that could lead us to happiness but if the longing for happiness is not achieved, the most important thing is being well.

What about you? If you would win € 2 million, would you keep going to work?

Why Accepting That You Cannot Always Be Happy Makes Your Life Easier

After having read a lot about happiness, I found out that you also would need to accept that you cannot always be happy because it will make your life easier.

What is the real meaning of being happy? Is it really necessary to be happy all the time to be successful in life?

Some researchers state that happiness means designing your own quality of life and also finding ways to strive for continuous improvement. They say that we all have a social purpose to live for, that is our mission. If you keep a journal, for instance, you would be able to evaluate the activities that make you happy and compare them with those that make you unhappy. In this way you may have a choice. You can also compare yourself with others’ activities to find out what makes them happy and get inspired. It doesn’t mean that you have to compare yourself with others: you are unique, and  in some cases you don’t even know those people very well.

Moreover, there is not a single recipe to be happy. Not everyone will be happy by practicing meditation or sports, for instance. There are, however, common factors that will influence your happiness:  valuable relationships, a meaningful job,  work-life balance, a great partner and good health. In any case, you may find someone who is not happy in spite of the fact that they have a good job and they get along well with their partner.

Yet, there are also researchers saying that it is not important to target happiness as such, but you would need to to learn how to be unhappy, by accepting the moments of unhappiness without judgement and as part of your life.

Being always positive is not good

Some scientists see with a critical eye today’s trend on being always positive. Avoiding facing distress, sorrow, misery is not a solution. You can’t ignore being unhappy, you have to accept it for what it is. You can also share your negative feelings or emotions with others, it will help you create and strengthen your relationships. When you are worried and you know that someone will listen to you, you may feel a bit better after having shared your distress and discomfort.

Actually, those who pretend to always be happy may end up being alone, isolated and of course unhappy.

Accept what life gives you in the present moment

This sounds like a paradox but if you try to accept your unhappiness as a moment in your life that sooner or later will fade away, you will be more content.

The most important thing is to be happy with the life you live, acknowledging and accepting the ups and downs that are part of your life. As the French say, c’est la vie.

Listening to Your Body with Qi Gong

Qi Gong is an ancestral discipline born in China about 5000 years ago. It has been influenced by various philosophies, such as Taoism, Buddhism and Confucianism.

After having developed within religious and spiritual fields, Qi Gong has been contaminated by fighting techniques becoming in this way also part of martial arts.

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Today, more than a thousand forms of Qi Gong are known. Actually, each teacher develops his own technique observing though the same principles and purposes: to stay healthy by keeping the body, spirit and energy in balance.

According to Chinese medicine, good health is the result of a good circulation of energy in the body. Qi Gong is considered a prevention measure.

The search for balance, the precision of intention (Yi), the fluidity of gestures represent not only a path towards self-knowledge but also the pleasure of encountering oneself. With Qi Gong, we learn to love ourselves, to open up to the universe, to live in harmony with everything around us.

In the search for balance, you will experience moments when you focus and moments when you rest. Feeling too much or what is missing, for example when you go from one foot to the other, allows you to become aware of your own fragility. When, on the other hand, you stand on two feet, well anchored to the ground, you feel then balanced, and stronger.

Working on balance brings a feeling of lightness and freedom, without forgetting that through the movements and stimulation of the meridians (energy circulation paths), organic functions improve (circulation, digestion, breathing).

The body is at the centre of the relationship with oneself, with others and with the environment. Body awareness passes through listening to your body at first, by observing muscle tone, tensions, balance, posture and the direction of movements.

Qi Gong can be considered above all as a search for energy balance and harmony between body and spirit. By paying attention to the gestures, we realize that our way of thinking also changes and we get a more peaceful look at the world.

Have you heard about Qi Gong before? What do you think about it?

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Why Your Well-being Must Be a Top Priority

The society we live in often leads us to reverse priorities and put work first. This can negatively affects our quality of life and physical, mental and emotional health.

According to researches carried out in France, physical suffering related to work affects 3.1% of women and 1.4% of men, but according to some experts, the figures are higher. The international classification of diseases identifies burn-out as a work-related phenomenon but in reality work is not the only cause.

With the cost of living constantly rising, we are likely to work longer hours to earn a salary that allows us to provide for our own needs and those of our family. Because of this, many elements of our private life are put aside.

We spend many hours working, reducing the time to eat, to rest, to be with the family, and we do not realize how much this can harm us.

While most of us cannot afford to leave their job, a balance must be found between work and private life to prevent stress from building up in a worrying way.

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In this period of forced tele-working, it is even more difficult to put boundaries between work and private life. For this reason, many governments have been drafting directives that establish the right to “disconnect”. We need to have the time to do sports, to walk, to take care of our dear ones, to follow our passions or simply to rest.

More and more people suffer from stress, feel exhausted, have problems with nutrition, addictions, or relationship difficulties, and all that because of the long working days, which do not leave us the time to do activities for our well-being.

If you feel you are in one of those situations, know that no salary is worth your health, no job is worth the wear and tear that comes from working days that annihilate your energy and happiness.

If you have no other alternatives to the work you are currently doing, find something positive to balance your life, because otherwise, there may come a time when you will start making mistakes at work and your overall performance will suffer. Start looking for another job but put your health in the first place, because if you get ill it may take a long time to recover.

Your job is an important part of your life, but it is not your life. There is much more: family, health, and friends. Do not allow work to take up all the space in your mind and body, taking the joy away from you.

Remember always taking care of yourself first, because this is the only way you can live a better life.

How do you take care of yourself?

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9 Tips to Live a Better Life

Good habits and good mood have a close connection with good health and well-being.

Here are 9 tips that will help you find a bit of tranquility, improve your balance and get closer to the idea of ​​happiness that best suits you.

  1. Keep moving. Physical activity is one of the tools that most benefits our body. It can significantly reduce stress, control cholesterol levels, help you lose weight, oxygenate body tissues and eliminate toxins through sweating. In addition, it allows the development of endorphins that produce brain pleasure and decrease joint pain. If you can, don’t take the elevator but take the stairs, walk to work, or ride a bicycle. These are all activities you can do without necessarily going to the gym. Not only will your body benefit, but the environment will also be thankful.
  2. Improve nutrition. Pay attention to what you consume daily. Take time for each meal and choose healthy menus. Eat balanced and add fruit, vegetables and legumes to your diet. Try new recipes and prepare differently flavoured meals to discover new things. Avoid eating junk food, because it contains simple sugars and carbohydrates, which contribute to the slowdown of metabolism and obstruct the arteries. Also avoid fatty meals too.
  3. Drink plenty of water. The consumption of water, tea and juice allows you to eliminate free radicals. In addition, hydration is good for the skin, which will thus remain beautiful and healthy.
  4. Do something you enjoy. Take time to do an activity that you like during the day, which makes you relax, such as doing manual work, cooking, reading or learning to play a musical instrument.
  5. Disconnect yourself for a full day. Make an effort, put social media and cell phone aside for a day. It’s good to focus on yourself every now and then.
  6. Spend time outdoors. Walking in the forest, having a picnic, spending time outdoors are activities that make you reconnect with nature as well as being an opportunity to breathe some fresh air.
  7. Volunteering. Solidarity is one of the paths most used by people who seek tranquility and who want to be at peace with themselves. Good deeds will affect your life in a positive way.
  8. Stay positive. Look at things with pleasure, optimism and positive energy. Frustration brings negative consequences in life.
  9. Share moments with friends. Having a coffee with friends, talking about nothing, will help you feel much better.

What do you think? will you adopt one of these new habits?