Why You Would Need a Range of Influencing Tactics to Better Communicate

The modern workplace is constantly changing, and you may sometimes struggle to convince your boss or your colleagues of the merits of your idea. This means that you would need a range of influencing strategies, to ensure that you become comfortable with influencing different people at different times and in different situations.

You can use more than one way to convince your colleagues of your idea’s strengths. You can use both logic and emotion strategies or you can demonstrate both the positive aspects of the plan and the negative aspects of the alternatives.

Therefore, you may like to follow one (or more) of these four strategies:
  1. Investigator
  2. Calculator
  3. Motivator
  4. Collaborator

1. Investigators draw on facts and figures to support a logical and methodical approach. To become adept at this style of influencing, it is important to feel comfortable handling data, finding information that supports your strategy, and then using it to form a convincing argument.

Information gathering is the first step. Effective influencers of this type collect two main types of information: background data, which informs their view of the world, and task-related data, that is for a specific purpose. Be sure to chunk your information before delivering, to avoid the audience stopping listening. And sure be also not to pass too many information.

2. Calculators tend to use logic to influence.

This strategy depends on giving time and effort to in-depth analysis and the creation of a well-structured argument. Skills associated with this approach include the ability to weigh options, the capacity to provide feedback, and the understanding of when to offer concessions.

Stick to the facts so that you keep your credibility, but remember to compare your proposal’s benefits with the risks of inaction in a way that your listeners can relate to.

3. Motivators use emotions and the “big picture” to communicate compelling visions of the future. While some people seem to be natural motivators, there are some simple lessons that anyone can learn to influence through motivation.

You can add structure to your enthusiasm, and maximise the impact of any presentation you have to give. You may use the Monroe’s Motivated Sequence. In five steps you will gain your audience’s attention, and leave team members with specific actions that they can take afterwards.

You might think that you lack the natural charisma to be a motivator, but the good news is that this skill can be developed. You can learn to be more engaging, likeable and inspiring. Concentrate on your body language, help others to feel good, and show empathy, assertiveness and confidence.

4. Collaborators use motivation too, but they persuade people by involving them in the decision.

Collaborators are great team builders. They engage people’s hearts and minds. This helps people to own the process of change for themselves. In these circumstances, your role is to be a facilitator rather than trying to convince team members logically.

To be a collaborator, you likely need: the ability to share power, the capacity to listen actively, and the willingness to communicate openly.

Which one of these influencing strategies you think would be the most effective for you?

How to avoid arguments with your partner

How to avoid arguments with your partner? It may seem strange to you, but the way you argue with your partner says a lot about the relationship. Arguments demonstrate that you care about each other’s feelings!

Even if you complain, for example, that you are bored, or you are left alone too often, this is a sign that you would like to spend more time with your partner and share intense moments with him/her.

Here are 5 tips to avoid arguments with your partner.

1 – Do not say anything that you will immediately regret, be sure to stick to the topic discussed, and listen carefully to your partner. In the end you may be wrong and it would be wise to admit it.

2 – It is important to recognize when you and your partner can no longer have constructive discussions. If every time you have to debate a topic, you end up getting angry, it’s time to work on managing the conflict.

3 – You shall be ready to see the other person’s point of view, how they feel, what they expect from you and what they want to do to regain happiness.

4 – It is normal to be upset, however, screaming, having vulgar language, and anything else that could hurt your partner mentally or physically is going to have disastrous consequences. Try to remember why the discussion started, what the issue was, why it needed to be addressed, and do your best to see your partner’s point of view.

5 – Finally, keep your emotions under control. Remember that if your emotions take over it may be destructive. You should try to make a strong and reasonable case. If the topic of the dispute is particularly sensitive, it is even more important for you to control your emotions. The purpose of an argument is not to hurt each other, but rather to reconnect with each other in ways you didn’t do before.

Don’t hesitate to share these simple tips with people around you, you may save a couple in trouble!

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