Communication in a Multicultural Environment: Reflections from Brussels

Living and working in a multicultural environment like Brussels, home to over 150 nationalities, offers a unique and fascinating experience. At the European Commission, I interact with colleagues representing almost all 27 European Union member states. Each day is a learning experience as I adapt to different ways of communicating and understanding the intricacies of language, cultural norms, and unspoken assumptions.

The Role of Language and Communication in Belonging

Language is more than just words; it’s the bridge that connects us. But can our communication influence our sense of belonging within a team or an organization? In my experience, it absolutely does. Clear, inclusive communication fosters unity, while misunderstandings can create barriers, leaving individuals feeling excluded or disconnected.

Effective communication is not just about speaking the same language; it’s about being understood and making others feel included. It requires empathy, patience, and a willingness to listen to the nuances behind the words. In a diverse setting like mine, where every interaction involves different perspectives and values, communication becomes an art form. It goes beyond words. Facial expressions, gestures, and tone of voice all contribute to how messages are received and interpreted.

Inclusive Communication Across Cultures

So how do we communicate in a way that makes everyone feel included, irrespective of their background, nationality, contractual status, identity, or belief? It begins with active listening and genuine curiosity about the person you’re speaking with. Understanding where they come from—both literally and figuratively—helps bridge cultural divides. It’s also about being mindful of how we convey information.

In Edward Hall’s book Beyond Culture, he explores how different cultures rely on high-context or low-context communication. High-context cultures, such as those in Asia, Africa, and Latin America, rely heavily on nonverbal cues and the context surrounding the message. In contrast, low-context cultures, like those in Germany or the United States, value explicit and direct communication, where the meaning is laid out clearly.

Communicating in High-Context and Low-Context Cultures

When I interact with colleagues from high-context cultures, I pay attention not only to their words but also to their body language, facial expressions, and tone. Often, much of the message is “between the lines” rather than being directly stated. Conversely, with colleagues from low-context cultures, I focus on clarity and precision, ensuring every detail is spelled out to avoid misunderstandings.

In high-context environments, loyalty and long-term relationships are emphasized, often leaving unwritten rules to guide interactions. On the other hand, in low-context cultures, communication tends to create shorter-term relationships and set clearly defined expectations.

Neither approach is inherently better, but understanding these differences can prevent misunderstandings and make communication more effective. For example, while a German colleague might prefer straightforward feedback, a Greek colleague may value a more indirect, nuanced approach.

Expressing Yourself and Being Heard

In such a diverse landscape, one of the most challenging yet rewarding aspects is finding your voice and ensuring it’s heard. Amid different languages, accents, and information-processing styles, expressing yourself clearly and respectfully is crucial. The key is to adapt without losing your authenticity.

I’ve found that the NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) technique of mirroring, or subtly reflecting the body language and communication style of the person I’m speaking with, can be helpful. This technique creates rapport and signals that I’m tuned in to their way of expressing themselves. But it’s not just about technique, it’s also about a mindset shift.

Communicating with the intent to understand, rather than simply to respond, fosters a more inclusive and respectful environment.

The Impact of Values on Communication

How we communicate reflects our values and, in turn, impacts others. If we value openness, we’re more likely to encourage dialogue and invite different perspectives. Conversely, if we’re more reserved, our communication may be more formal or restrained, which can be misinterpreted by others. Our own cultural lens inevitably shows how we interact with others, so self-awareness is key.

It’s also important to recognize how our communication influences those around us. When we are inclusive, we create a safe space for others to express themselves, contributing to a more cohesive, harmonious environment.

What About You?

Reflecting on your own communication style, which cultural context do you feel most aligned with—high-context or low-context? And what techniques do you use to ensure effective communication across cultural boundaries?

Whether you’re working in a multicultural setting or simply interacting with people from diverse backgrounds, remember that communication is a dynamic and evolving process. The more we learn about each other’s styles, values, and perspectives, the better we can navigate the complexities of our interconnected world.

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Albert Ellis and Rational Emotive Therapy: A Path to Emotional Freedom

Among psychologists, few figures stand out as profoundly as Albert Ellis (1913-2007). A visionary American psychologist, Ellis revolutionized the field with his development of Rational Emotive Therapy (RET), a method grounded in the idea that our emotional well-being is deeply influenced by the way we interpret the world. At the core of RET is a powerful insight borrowed from the Stoic philosopher Epictetus: “People are not disturbed by things, but by the views they take of them.”

Ellis believed that by identifying and altering our irrational beliefs, we could liberate ourselves from the emotional turmoil that often keeps us from living fulfilling lives. This approach to mental health is not just about understanding the mind; it’s about empowering individuals to take control of their emotional destinies. To do this, Ellis offered several guiding principles that can transform how we think, feel, and live.

1. Stop Using the Verb “Must”

One of the first steps in practicing RET is eliminating the word “must” from your vocabulary. Ellis argued that the word “must” creates unnecessary pressure and unrealistic expectations. Phrases like “I must be perfect” or “People must like me” are irrational and set us up for failure and disappointment. These “musts” turn preferences into demands, making us rigid in our thinking and more prone to anxiety and depression when reality doesn’t meet our expectations.

Instead, replace “must” with “would like” or “prefer.” This simple shift in language can dramatically reduce the emotional intensity associated with unmet expectations. It fosters flexibility and resilience, helping you to face life’s challenges with greater ease.

2. Choose Your Words Wisely

Words are powerful. They are the bricks that build the walls within our minds and between us and others. Ellis taught that by choosing our words carefully, we can change the way we feel about ourselves and our situations. Negative self-talk, like calling yourself “stupid” or “a failure,” reinforces harmful beliefs and perpetuates a cycle of self-criticism.

Instead, practice using affirming and realistic language. When faced with a challenge, remind yourself that you can handle that or that you are doing your best. This kind of positive self-talk can help dismantle the mental barriers that keep you stuck in negative patterns.

3. Focus on How You Think About Yourself

Ellis was a firm believer in the power of self-determination. He acknowledged the influence of the unconscious mind and personal history, but he emphasized that we can shape our present and future through conscious thought. How you think about yourself matters more than what has happened to you in the past.

To harness this power, start by challenging negative beliefs about yourself. If you believe you’re not worthy of success, ask yourself why. Is this belief based on facts, or is it an irrational assumption? By dissecting these beliefs, you can begin to replace them with more constructive and empowering thoughts, paving the way for a more fulfilling life.

4. Stop Blaming Yourself

Self-blame is one of the most common—and most damaging—forms of irrational thinking. Ellis pointed out that constantly blaming yourself for things that go wrong is not only unfair but also unproductive. It traps you in a cycle of guilt and shame, preventing you from moving forward.

Instead, adopt a more compassionate mindset. Recognize that everyone makes mistakes and that these mistakes are growth opportunities, not evidence of your inadequacy. By letting go of self-blame, you can free yourself from the past and focus on creating a better future.

5. Laugh More Often

Humor is a powerful tool in RET. Ellis encouraged people to laugh at themselves and the absurdities of life. Laughter can diffuse tension, reduce stress, and provide a fresh perspective on your problems. It reminds us not to take ourselves too seriously and to approach life with a sense of playfulness.

Next time you find yourself spiraling into negative thinking, try to find the humor in the situation. It might not solve the problem, but it can certainly lighten the emotional load.

6. Let Go of Perfectionism

Perfectionism is a trap that many of us fall into. The belief that we must be perfect in everything we do is not only unrealistic but also harmful. It leads to chronic dissatisfaction, as no one can meet the impossible standards that perfectionism demands.

Ellis advised against striving for perfection and instead encouraged striving for excellence. Excellence allows room for mistakes and growth, while perfectionism does not. By letting go of the need to be perfect, you can reduce stress, increase your sense of self-worth, and enjoy life more fully.

Take Action Now

Albert Ellis’s Rational Emotive Therapy is more than just a therapeutic method; it’s a blueprint for living a more authentic, fulfilling life. By applying these principles—eliminating “musts,” choosing your words wisely, focusing on how you think about yourself, letting go of self-blame, laughing more often, and releasing the grip of perfectionism—you can begin to free yourself from the internal chains that hold you back.

Take action today. Reflect on your beliefs, challenge the irrational ones, and start building a life that aligns with your true desires and values. Emotional freedom is within your reach; all it takes is the courage to change your mind.

Do you think these guiding principles outlined by Ellis would help you build the life you want?

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The Challenges of Communicating Across Cultures

I live and work in an real multicultural environment.

The city where I live is Brussels that hosts about 150 different nationalities. The place I work with is the European Commission where all the 28 European Union nationalities are represented.

Sometimes it is difficult to communicate to each other, as you have to pay much attention to other’s sensitivity, emotions and feelings.

Day after day, I learned that each culture has their own approach to communication. 

I found a very interesting the book of the anthropologist Edward HallBeyond Culture. He identified the importance of context in communication and raised the attention on the “invisible” type of communication, by which groups of people understand and interpret the world.

The framework proposed by Hall for approaching intercultural communication is high-context and low-context cultures, which refer to the values cultures place on indirect and direct communication.

It is important to note that no culture is completely high-context or low-context, since all societies contain at least some parts that are both high and low. For example, the United States is a low-context culture while doing business, but during family gatherings tend to be high-context.

Let us see now the main features of the two cultural types.

High-Context Cultures

A high-context culture relies on implicit communication and nonverbal cues. In high-context communication, a message cannot be understood without a great deal of background information. Asian, African, Arab, central European and Latin American cultures are generally considered to be high-context cultures.

With people belonging mainly to high-context cultures, you may encounter the following:

  1. Misunderstanding when exchanging information
  2. Impression of a lack of information
  3. Large amount of information is provided in a non-verbal manner, e.g. gestures, pauses, facial expressions
  4. Emphasis on long term relationships and loyalty
  5. Unwritten rules that are taken for granted but can easily be missed. 

Low-Context Cultures

A low-context culture relies on explicit communication. In low-context communication, more of the information in a message is spelled out and defined. Cultures like the Germans, Scandinavians, Americans and Australians are generally considered to be low-context cultures.

Dealing with people belonging mainly to low-context cultures, you may find the following:

  1. All meaning is explicitly provided in the message itself
  2. Extensive background information and explanations are provided verbally to avoid misunderstandings
  3. People tend to have short-term relationships
  4. People follow rules and standards closely.

To avoid “diplomatic incidents”, I try to pay much attention to my interlocutor languages and “imitate” them using the technique of the mirror, namely, repeating the body language, the type of words they use, how they overall handle the conversation.

What about you? Which culture do you think you belong to? Which technique do you use to better communicate across cultures?