Communicating with Influence

The modern workplace is changing, and holding a senior position within an organisation no longer automatically means that you can influence your team members. You may often have to convince both bosses and colleagues of the merits of your strategy or idea.

This means that you need a range of influencing tactics, to ensure that you are comfortable influencing different people at different times and in different situations.

You can use more than one way to convince your colleagues of your plan’s strengths. You can use both logic and emotion; demonstrate both the positive aspects of the plan and the negative aspects of the alternatives.

There are four strategies you can consider:

  1. Investigator
  2. Calculator
  3. Motivator
  4. Collaborator

1. Investigators draw on facts and figures to support a logical and methodical approach. To become adept at this style of influencing, it is important to feel comfortable handling data, finding information that supports your strategy, and then using it to form a convincing argument.

Information gathering is the first step. Effective influencers of this type collect two main types of information: background data, which informs their view of the world, and task-related data, that is for a specific purpose. Be sure to chunk your information before delivering, to avoid audience stops listening. And be sure also to avoid information overload!

2. Calculators  tend to use logic to influence and will likely be good debaters.

This style depends on giving time and effort to in-depth analysis and the creation of a well-structured argument. Skills associated with this approach include: the ability to weigh options, the capacity to provide feedback, and an understanding of when to offer concessions.

Stick to the facts so that you keep your credibility, but remember to contrast your proposal’s benefits with the risks of inaction in a way that your listeners can relate to.

3. Motivators use emotions and the “big picture” to communicate compelling visions of the future. While some people seem to be natural motivators, there are some simple lessons that can teach any of us to influence through motivation.

You can add structure to your enthusiasm, and maximise the impact of any presentation you have to give. You may would like to use the Monroe’s Motivated Sequence. In five steps you will gain your audience’s attention, and leave team members with specific actions that they can take afterwards.

You might think that you lack the natural charisma to be a Motivator, but the good news is that this trait can be developed. You can learn to be more engaging, likeable and inspiring. Concentrate on your body language, help others to feel good, and show empathy, assertiveness and confidence.

4. Collaborators use motivation too, but they persuade people by involving them in the decision.

Collaborators are great team builders. They engage people’s hearts and minds. This helps people to own the process of change for themselves. In these circumstances, your role is to be a facilitator rather than trying to convince team members logically.

To be a collaborator, you likely need: the ability to share power, the capacity to listen actively, and the willingness to communicate openly.

And you, which one of these influencing strategies are you most and least comfortable with?

 

Choosing the right means of communication

It happens to all of us. We draft an important message and broadcast it to the world to only find out that the world “did not get it”.

The email was misunderstood; the news announcement jumped to second page too fast; the videoconference connection got interrupted; the meeting was too long, people got distracted and missed the critical info right at the end. Effective communication is demanding. It is influenced by organisational factors such as the workplace culture and norms, the level of communication skills of senders and recipients, the engagement of employees, to name a few.

But there are also elements within our control that can help us communicate more effectively. Choosing the right means or channel for communication is one. Here we share with you some tips and resources on this topic. Deciding on ‘how’ you are going to communicate entails first reflecting on your communication objectives, audience and content.

Think about your communication objective

Why are you communicating? Are you providing general information, sharing knowledge or asking for a decision? Is your objective ambitious and you are attempting to change behaviours?

Know your target audience

Knowing your stakeholders includes understanding their communication needs and preferences. How do they like to stay informed? Will they have questions? How would they prefer to give feedback?

Consider your content

Sensitive or conflictual information is best given in person (even if there is a written follow-up). On the other hand, if your content is more informal, for example, if you are sharing useful resources, you can use social media, which will allow you to label and store the content properly.

Know the strengths and weaknesses of each communication channel

We easily fall into habits and start to rely too much on a single communication channel (I think email is abused nowadays). It is important to consider the most efficient and effective channel for each message. Getting acquainted and comfortable with using different channels is a priority.

 

 

Mind Mapping: What If Our Brain Looks Like A Walnut

Mind Mapping is a powerful graphic technique which provides a universal key to unlock the potential of the brain that was invented by Tony Buzan. I heard about it a long ago from a friend of mine who is a writer. He used it to make up the plot for his books. He could also get a license for free from Tony as he was one of the first user!

Mind Mapping takes inspiration from our brain that looks like a walnut and it help us to use both hemispheres to be more creative. Moreover, using it it’s fun and we do things better when we enjoy ourselves.

I attended a course recently, it has been long that I wanted to do it. Have a look at one of my first mind maps that explains you a bit what it is about:

 

MM_SpiderWhy I call it a spider? Because it is recommended to have maximum 8 branches, that I called legs. As each leg generates a topic, you can add other subtopics linked to the first one. Actually, this is a danger, as you wouldn’t know when to stop!

Mind Mapping will enable you to plan personal development paths, make choices and let you know where you are, where you are going and where you have been. That’s why I have decide to start using it!

Main advantages of this method are:

  • You can use colours to identify subjects: you will enjoy looking at it, read it over again and remember as it will catch and hold your eye;
  • You can use your creativity without limits and you will be able to see new solutions to old problems;
  • You can use images or draw yourself instead of writing: you will get a sense of fulfilment and reward;
  • Radiant thinking, helicopter view: with Mind Mapping you will have an overview of a large subject and you can also deal with a large amount of data.

There are some free softwares available on the Internet, just google for it. However, while you will be able to present information in a more structured way, you won’t be able to express your creativity. They are good for presentations you may want to do in front of a client or an audience. But draw very personal Mind Maps for your own use, feel free to use your imagination!

Active Listening

Do you like music? What do you do when you listen to your favourite music?

When I was a teenager, I used to learn by heart the lyrics of my favourite songs. Still today I try to do it. I can easily learn the lyrics if I listen carefully to the song and if I listen to the same song several times.

The same thing happens with people. Nowadays most of us are more interested in speaking than listening. Though, to be able to understand properly, you should be able to listen correctly to the other. Not only listening shows respect to the person who does the talking but it shows also empathy, that is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

There is one powerful technique, used in coaching and counselling, Active listening.  It is a communication technique where the listener focus for about 70% on listening, and the remaining 30% splits into 20% of questions, and 10% your opinion.

You would need to be sure of what the person is saying, therefore you will rephrase her sentence. You can also ask confirmation of what has been said. Questions to assure the other that you are listening are also useful. Body language helps a lot. Don’t sit with legs or arms crossed, it would give the impressione that you are a closed person, or impatient, or even challenging. Consider also the distance between the other and yourself. Don’t stay too close, usually one meter is okay, it leaves enough space for communicating well in a close but safe way. It also depends on the nationality of your interlocutor.

When you put a question, it has to be an open question, meaning that you don’t ask questions that have a yes or no answer.

Example of questions may be:

  1. Who/what precisely…?
  2. When did it happen?
  3. Why do you believe that…?
  4. How did it happen? Describe it more precisely.

If you would like to develop your listening skills, drop me an email.