How to Make Others Happy

Making others happy is simpler than you might think. There is a scientific explanation behind the phrase “a smile is contagious”. Researchers at Harvard University have found that happiness is contagious: when a person is joyful, people around them are 25% more likely to be happy as well. Imagine what could happen if every person in the world would do one act of kindness a day to another person. The repercussions would be staggering. You would not need to do great things, as even small gestures may make others smile.
Try these ideas to see if you would bring more happiness around you.

How to Make Others Happy #1: Sharing Books

Two Australian friends wanted people to quit the habit of watching their phones on the public transport and replace them with a good book. That is why they launched @booksontherail. This initiative invites people to place a sticker on a book they liked and leave it somewhere for someone else to pick it up and read it. After reading it, the book could be left again somewhere for another person. Why not give it a try? Next time you finish a good book, instead of leaving it on a shelf to gather dust, leave it somewhere and invite with a post-it the person who finds it to read it, and continue the literary chain of happiness.  

In Brussels, there are small free “book shelves” on the streets where people can exchange books for free, of course. If you live in an apartment, why not set one up in the lobby of your building, or why not also at work?

How to Make Others Happy #2: Giving Compliments

“If you think something positive about someone, you should tell them,” says Steven Bartlett, who runs one of Europe’s biggest podcasts, Diary of a CEO.  “It’s the easiest way to add positive things to a world that needs it so much.”

How to Make Others Happy #3: Making a Cake

Why not bake a cake for your colleagues? Don’t wait for a reason, just make it to share a few moments away from your work and simply enjoy a piece of cake together.  In addition, sharing food has been shown to increase happiness.

How to make others happy #4: Sharing your Garden

Take a little branch of your favourite plant from your garden or balcony and give it to a friend to integrate a part of your world into their world. Every time they look at it, they will think of you and they will put a smile in their face.

How to Make Others Happy #5: Pay for a Coffee In Advance

A “caffè sospeso” is a “hanging coffee” in Italian. This term was created in the workers’ bars of Naples more than 100 years ago. Some people will pay for two coffees while having only one so that people in need could enjoy the second one for free. When you order a coffee next time, ask the waiter if you can buy one for someone else as well. Some bars have regular visits from homeless people to whom they can offer your coffee.

How to Make Others Happy #6: Opening Doors

By “opening doors” I don’t mean metaphorical doors, I really mean opening a door for someone else who is behind you. “Something as simple as keeping a door open for someone else coming in can really lift both spirits,” says psychologist Jess Baker. “It only takes a few seconds, but it’s a moment of connection that shows that you’ve seen the other person, that you’ve taken them into account, and that you’re doing something to make their day more pleasant.”

What would you do to make others happy?

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Aromatherapy to Fight Insomnia

Insomnia can have different causes: noisy surrounding environment, excess of light or lack of light, extreme heat or cold, intense rhythm of life that causes stress, anxiety and depression. Good sleep is the cornerstone of a healthy life, while insomnia can cause mental and physical health ailments and weaken the immune system.

Several studies have shown a positive effect of essential oils on sleep disorders. However, if you experience severe sleeping disorders that have a significant impact on any aspect of your well-being, seek professional help.

I have selected five essential oils that I use for myself and my family that I hope will be useful to you too.

Oils that prevent insomnia and calm the spirit by reducing anxiety:

Lavender: relaxes the muscles, has antidepressant, calming and balancing properties. I used it also when my son was little and found difficult to fall asleep.

Roman chamomile: powerful calming oil, helps to manage nervous and anguish crisis.

Bitter orange: calming, balancing, sedative, it allows to fight anxiety, anguish, restless sleep and night time awakenings.

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Oils to calm muscle spasms responsible for agitation:

Marjoram: a very powerful anxiolytic, antispasmodic and sedative. In addition to providing a sedative and anti-inflammatory effect, it relieves stiff and painful joints.

Ravensara (Ravintsara): muscle relaxant. Complements and strengthens the marjoram and helps you fall asleep.

This is only a small selection based on my preferences. You can also try mandarin, neroli, hypericum, valerian and lemon scented geranium.

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How to use them:

Aroma Diffuser: pour 20 to 25 drops of essential oil into an electric diffuser to avoid combustion and turn it on 5 minutes before going to bed.

Massage: pour 4 to 10 drops of essential oil into a vegetable oil such as argan or hemp. Massage the solar plexus before going to bed. If you have the chance, ask those who live with you to massage your feet, back, legs and belly.

Bath (for an adult): mix 5 to 10 drops of essential oil with unrefined coarse salt (a medium-sized glass) and add it to your bath water just before plunging in. Rest about 15 minutes in the tub and then go to bed. For children use only 5 drops.

Steam your pillow: spray some oil a few times on your pillow before going to sleep.

General tips to improve your sleep:

Avoid noise and light in your room. Deep darkness is optimal for a deep sleep. Keep the temperature between 18 and 19 degrees C, before going to bed open the window for 5 minutes and eliminate allergens (cat or dog hair, dust, pollen, etc.).

In the evening, eliminate exciting drinks like coffee, tea, carbonated drinks and alcohol. Eat light food and do not go to bed immediately after eating, even if you are very tired. Beware if you miss vitamin B, calcium and magnesium as it may be the cause which can cause sleep disorders.

Avoid spending many hours in front of a screen (both computer and television) before going to sleep. Of course, you should also avoid having a television in the room.

Emotions

Anxiety and adaptation to change are two enemies of sleep. Read, drink a herbal tea, meditate. Plan a 30 minute relaxation time to at least calm your spirit and body before going to bed.

Sleep Cycle

Respect your schedules and habits as much as possible so as not to upset your biological clock. Always try to eat and go to bed at the same time. If you suffer from insomnia do not take an afternoon nap because you risk changing your sleeping pattern.

What about you? Do you think that one of those oils may help you improve your sleep?

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